For many brides, you get engaged and can’t wait to start planning the big day. You’ve been dreaming about it forever, so you think you know everything! But rushing the process (unless you really need to if you’re getting married in 2 months) can really burn you out!
It’s tremendously easy to do. When you have wonderful wedding magazines like Martha Stewart Weddings, Brides, The Knot coupled with awesome websites and blogs like Martha Stewart Weddings, Style Me Pretty, (and, this one, TLC Events) you’ll catch a case of information overload.
Do you go with the table runners? Mason jars and wildflowers or clear vases with simple white flowers? Lace gown or ball gown? DJ or band? Add in the million questions you receive from family in friends, the stress of managing a budget and planning the largest party you probably have every planned and you’re stuck with an overwhelming feeling of the pieces just not falling into place. So, how do you avoid it?
1. Ask for help. Also known as hiring a wedding planner. Hiring a planner doesn’t mean you’re out of the picture, it just means that you’ll have help.
2. Define a clear focus for your overall design / vision. Pick a color palette and stick with it. Opt for details that complement your personal style but add that touch of flair. Do not feel like you have to use every trend on every magazine page and blog.
3. Don’t let the details become bigger than the purpose. Yes, details are what help give personality to the wedding. But the couple, marriage and celebration are the most important. If you focus on the purpose, the details fall in place. It’s when you get wrapped up in the details that the wedding starts to lose focus…
4. To do lists! Create a list of all of your to-do’s, enlist the help of your fiance, and prioritize what’s important and necessary, what isn’t and what needs to get tackled now and what can wait til later.
5. ENJOY the process. As overwhelming as it can be, the last thing you want is for the engagement and planning process to take over your life. I always tell my couples that if it is too much work, you’re doing it wrong. Re-evaluate how you’re tackling the tasks and don’t forget to ask for help.
6. Step away from the inspiration when you have solidified your ideas and vision. It never fails that once you have finalized those details, you get sucked into other inspiration and develop a case of “I should haves.” You don’t want that. Re-visit that inspiration only in moderation.
7. Involve friends and family. When you delegate tasks (like crafting or putting labels on envelopes or water bottles), it makes the process seem less daunting and stressful, and much more enjoyable.
While there are a number of other ways to beat wedding burnout (like a good glass of wine every now and then), these tips will help to keep you from going crazy. When things start to get overwhelming or tiring, take a break. No one said you had to eat, sleep and breathe wedding planning once you’re engaged.
And, most importantly, be sure you are having fun. That’s what matters the most!